Fun to read your posts Boylston. You got about the same things to work on as me, and I can easly identify with your posts

I am only on about 1450-1500 rating atm, but I feel confident that I could be about 100 rating higher if I had spent all my points on gear (lost a lot of matches were the burst target was at 5-10% hp left) , however I chose to save them for season 4.
I have about 400 resilience and 600 spelldmg (+totem of void) at the momen, but when season 4 hits I will gain about 300 more spelldmg from gear+enchants.

Do you think that it is a good idea to gem your main with more resilience/hp than your alts? I have wondered abit about this, but I'm not sure if I want to go this route since I sometimes also do raids, and I want as much damage as possible.

Another idea might be to use full spelldmg trinkets on the followers and medallion of the hord(epic version)+Battlemaster trinket on your main.