2) For ships that aren't cooperating with the range list, I right click the target on my main and fleet target it, which makes it bubble up to the top of the list on everyone's overview (eventually) for easier selection.
3) For times when I wanna make sure I'm focus-firing, the layout above makes it easy to select the same ship individually on all 5, then mouse-broadcast-click the missile launchers. I click-broadcast them due to the fucked up way EVE swallows keyboard commands depending on which window element has "focus."

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