Just newely divorced... how the hell does a date work now-a-days??

[Bradster]

I don’t know about you guys but I didn’t find someone I liked until I stopped looking, I swore it’s the best way to find someone. For a year I dated a lot, met lots of different people. None of which was really what I was looking for. At this point I’ve grown up a bit and was looking for more than just a one nighter.

After having yet another boring date I just decided F it! I’m done!

One of my best friends says “hey man, I found the perfect woman for you. I’m telling ya both figure and personality wise you two will hit it off”. Said I don’t care don’t even bother thanks anyway.

Week or two later I had to drop by work to pickup something, my friend drives by, stops asks if I wanted to hang out, I said sure. Had no idea she was in the car. So we pull in to the parking lot, she gets out and it took everything I had not to say out loud holy shit! That’s the biggest rack I’ve ever seen! (I’m a rack guy).

Week later we went on our first date.

[Knytestorme]

Non-Gaming girls are fine to date/marry as a gamer...it's the ones that don't have an understanding of boundaries, space or that what someone is doing may actually be important.

My last non-gamer g/f ended with a breakup over Everquest. I was guildleader of #2/3 guild on our server and we'd planned a progression night to kill Rallos Zek in Plane of Power expansion, we'd been working on him for about 2 days and knew that this was the night (had had this week booked out for about a fortnight on forums to make sure everyone was there and prepped)....about an hour into the raid we'd gotten him to < 50% and my g/f turns up with no call or anything, walks in to my place, goes to the bedroom, gets undressed and hops into bed (at this stage we'd been together a few months).

I explain to her that I currently have ~50 people relying on me and expecting me to be there and I can't just drop things because she decided she wanted to turn up, that I shouldn't be too much longer but it could also take a few hours. Six hours later RZ was dead and g/f was running out of my place in tears....I made the right choice given the way things finally ended (think I can say I'm the first non-celebrity male to be stalked for over a year)

Things didn't go badly here because she wasn't a gamer, things went badly because she has a constant "victim" mentality and only ever looked at things from her perspective. If you want to find someone for long term, both of you need to be able to respect and understand that the other may have hobbies you think weird or strange but be willing to respect what they need while they are involved in them as much as you'd expect them to respect your needs at the time.

[ChaoticMonk]

I wouldn't trade my gamer wife for the world.

We met on an MMO called Risk Your Life where I was a GM (what a flop!). We both ended up in the same guild and got to know each other, only thing that sucked was I was in London, UK and she was Spokane, WA and to cut a long story short *points at current location to the left*

We both play wow (we both have 2 accounts) and I truely couldn't ask for more.

Our dates consisted of raids and leveling sessions as well as house jumping (you could climb the houses in RYL and get pretty high up) and taking out puny humans...good times

[Bradster]

Six hours later RZ was dead and g/f was running out of my place in tears....

This would make a great Signature lol

[Binaryzero]

Well at least she cannot take you WOW accounts. Thank you Blizzard for your stupid rules :P

If the court decrees that the account to them, Blizz will make it happen, there is a post on the general forums a few years ago where someone was left an account in a will and they were allow to keep it by Blizz.

[d0z3rr]

I wouldn't trade my gamer wife for the world.

We met on an MMO called Risk Your Life where I was a GM (what a flop!). We both ended up in the same guild and got to know each other, only thing that sucked was I was in London, UK and she was Spokane, WA and to cut a long story short *points at current location to the left*

We both play wow (we both have 2 accounts) and I truely couldn't ask for more.

Our dates consisted of raids and leveling sessions as well as house jumping (you could climb the houses in RYL and get pretty high up) and taking out puny humans...good times :D

Wow. You left London for Spokane?!?!?! I have only been outside of the US once in my life, and it was when I went to England. London is like 30 times better than Washington DC!! Loved that city. Pubs are the greatest thing ever too.

[Lokked]

My wife is a non-gamer, and I found out (too late into the relationship to make a brash decision) that she left her ex of 8 years partially because of his video game addictions (however, his addiction caused him to not help out at all with chores, forget important dates/events and basically not pay any attention to her).

I had explained to her that I played games during portions of my free time, but she shrugged it off until we moved in together. She blew up at me after the first couple times I chose to play a game, and after calming her down, we reasoned things out peacefully and she doesn't have a problem with it, as long as I fulfill my duties as a husband/roommate/father/lover, et cetera.

All the above, however, is only as per my best knowledge of the situation as coming from a male. You never know with some females. Might be bottled up under high pressures as we speak....


Make sure you understand her priorities and whether or not she's at an appropriate maturity level for you. I figure that if you are with a non-gamer, being a gamer you would want to stay away from the clingy or even remotely clingy types, but I'm sure that's a gimme.

Have fun!

[Moxy]

This is quite the interesting convo. Fun to hear everyone's perspectives. I'm still single... but I don't mind it all that much. I mean, there are lonely times of course, but there are also alot of really cool things. I get to spend my money traveling around and competing, doing outdoor adventure sports, and multiboxing. Its kind of funny in a way... I must just be clueless about women (even through I grew up w/ 3 sisters) because alot of potential relationships end pretty quickly. Last serious one I was in ended because I wouldn't join her Dad's cult. Talk about a life experience...

Anyway, kids in a relationship makes it far more complicated, but it also kind of sorts out alot of the... superficiality. So, good luck man. And my best to your kids too... divorce is no joke for them.

[Deshu]

Wow! I never expected such an outpouring of advice, stories and laughs over this topic, but I'm pleased! lol

So... the result was:

I said yes, she had pursued me twice prior, to a dinner date. Carrabba's Italian (love and honor thy Italian food is one of my ten commandments - blame my ex-wife). Meal was great and dinner conversation was great. Afterwards we went to the pool hall we've been to with friends before and played some 1 on 1 pool and had a few drinks. Was great fun also. Then we sat in my truck after the date outside her apartment just talking for 30 to 45 mins. The night ended with a steamy goodnight kiss but nothing else... I am a gentleman after all :whistling: .

It wasn't nerve wracking, I got real comfortable after we got to the restaurant and realized I had nothing to worry about. She seemed into me and I definitely think I'm into her. I'm not ready to dive head first into a relationship but I'm looking forward to some dating and fun.

And no, I don't think I've moved on too fast. My ex and I were on the outs for years and I left the house 2 or 3 months ago. In fact, I offered to watch our kids when she went out on her first date last month.

And oh.... by the way..... she is into gaming. :love: :thumbsup:

(Going out again tomorrow afternoon for a lunch date, woots!)

[Deshu]

Damn I feel like a young lad again.... lol