Just newely divorced... how the hell does a date work now-a-days??

[Silaspop]

My girlfriend is a hardcore WoW player, that I think she only sleeps on tuesday mornings, lol. (Like now. Went to sleep at 2, will wake up at 3) At first she wasn't, she thought it was stupid but then all I had to do was show her that you can make little dresses and pick flowers and stuff. She actually hit 70 before I did.

I kinda want to post some of the pictures I've taken... you literally see a pile of of soda cans grow around the desk. Last week, I had to work a 16 hour shift (In a hot steel factory mind you) and I forgot my lunch and there aren't any places open as late as I work, so I called up and asked her to drive my lunch out to me and she said sure. I didn't get lunch that day because doing a ZA Pug was SO important. When I try to relax, she goes off about guild drama.

She's so involved in the game, that she doesn't really have anything else to talk about. If we have company over, she doesn't know how to communicate in a real social setting so she sits there out of the loop because she doesn't really know whats happened lately. If one of our WoW friends comes over, we can all sit there for Hours talking about WoW, but if some of her old friends come over, its total awkwardness. Doing regular tasks became such a problem too, like I would be tired on the weekends and we would agree that she would do the laundry if I vacuum and do the dishes and stuff, and I would end up doing everything.

I love my girlfriend, and I like WoW, but there's times where I wish she didn't play WoW at all. I'm not even going to get into the whole mess about kids going psycho because they are denied access to see her on cam or something, lol.

[-silencer-]

Eh.. if you have the option, and you love gaming, make sure you find someone who's at least somewhat into it or she just won't understand. I don't ever break/forgo plans with my girlfriend for WoW or even talk about it much, but a conversation game up about gaming recently, and she looked at me like I had 3 heads when I said I'll sit down to game for 3-4 hours a session once or twice a week. I told her it's better than watching reality TV for hours every night of the week.. I'm not sure I'd want to see her reaction to the gaming if we ever live together. I'd probably have to sacrifice some game time for more 'traditional' hobbies I enjoy.. playing guitars & building cars. But I'm okay with that. Would it be easier and more of a bonding experience if my girlfriend was at least partially into it? Definitely.. but you can't center your entire life around a video game.

[badashh]

think the best place to start looking is


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[Jorai]

just don't tell her about multi-boxing until at least the third date because once she hears about it..she'll want you so bad and you don't want to move TOO fast or you might lose respect for her.

[SilverSlice]

here is the link for all us single gamer's,
i've actually signed opp, and who knows...
sure beats the crap out of dating pages like www.match.com and so on.

edit: ofc i forgot to link to the gamer's date site, http://www.contactrealm.com
it is just starting up btw not much going on in there, and mostly men,


Silver

[TheHamburglar]

I finally get to use some of the stuff i've learned in psychology.


If you do decided to go to dinner, Go to a dimly lit place. There was a study done that I cant seem to find. Anyways it found that because of the low light causes your pupils dilate, which it just happens is a body language sign that people like what they are seeing. So dinner at a place with small booths or semi small tables can also help. Try and find out some things she likes, Movie, Activities, Her favorite memory from growing up, It's sometimes best to lead in this question by telling yours first. Don't try to force this kind of question in. If the opportunity presents itself go with it.
Example: "When i was a kid i remember this one summer My parents(Or Mom, Dad) we drove cross country to visit so and so." Tell some of the funny happenings along the way ect

If its dinner and a movie DO NOT GO TO A MOVIE THEATER. Its just bad for the mood, Food stuck everywhere sticky floors Crappy chairs no talking ect.

A Movie in the park is I think a better idea than the movie theaters. The type of movie can be just about anything new or old pretty much what ever is playing(They don't normally play crappy movies at these things) But comedy's work fairly well it can give her an excuse to touch you lean on your shoulder ect. Check out the area before hand so you know if you need to bring a blanket or something to sit in/on comfortably. If the movie isnt going over well you can always just walk around the park and just BS along the way and go grab a coffee/Drinks ect.

Bowling can be great, if she like bowling that is of course.


A Comedy club on an open mic night can sometimes be a fun idea. I've only taken one date to one and it went ok, Sit at the bar makes it easier to face each other when talking. Most times the bar is far away from the stage so you can have a conversation with out being to distracted or being distracting. Going when there is a good/famous comedian performing can hurt the date more than help it. You'll both be focusing more on the performer and less each other.

Its easier for most people to talk about themselves than to ask questions, but don't make her do all the talking! Don't be stiff when you talk try to be animated while talking use your hands it helps keep her attention on you. Ask engaging questions that will make her talk about herself and you about yourself. Questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no aren't very engaging.



Wow way more than i was planning on typing ^^ , Time to sleep lol :sleeping:

[aNiMaL]

but you can't center your entire life around a video game.

Uh what??
I feel misinformed

[-silencer-]

The divorce is final now, yay! I do not hate my ex-wife but it was just time, you know.

I'm 27... last time I went on a date I was 18. I have this girl asking me out who's a year younger than I. Is movies & dinner too archaic? Oh god... I'm nervous!

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No dinner and movie for a first date. If you don't know the girl very well, just go for a drink, coffee, or ice cream. Something quick that *can* last longer if you both want it to. If you know her well enough to get along, or for a 2nd date.. any simple activity works:
Playing pool, bowling, darts, basketball, frisbee, rollerblading, whatever. Something to get active in some form so you have something to 'do' while you're talking and getting to know each other.

[TheElles]

TheElles[/url] (my gamer GF/wife). :love:

Couldn't ask for anyone better - well, maybe a woman who gave me epics maybe, or one who bought me an epic flyer, or or may if she power leveled my new girls, or .... :P

Met at my mothers (re)wedding. It was love at first instance. :thumbsup:

:love: awww too cute

Loveses you too

Meanwhile yayay first date Deshu GRATS! Have fun mate and go with the flow :thumbup: