I agree with Luxlunae. Especially at this point in the patch/expansion - very few people care about what anyone else is doing in this game unless you are bleeding edge, so you are the only one responsible for your sense of accomplishment.

If you don't want to be "spoon fed" then stop opening your mouth everytime the spoon comes by. Turn off the debuff, don't recruit people who want slackass through raids, do hardmodes and ignore "the Joneses".