one other suggestion do not ask AV leader to be in same grp. I do not ask any longer. Then most of the time you are not as noticeable. It sucks to not be in same grp, but it happens. in aV Iam just happy to be in same AV with all 5 toons

I kill Bal first then move on to north or south bunker. most of the time noone notices me that way.

Then again i think Horde players are more forgiving than allaince overall as a general rule