You could do something like this: http://www.dual-boxing.com/showthread.php?t=33669 .... specifically, having a key, where only the one toon FTL targets your main.
Then take your pick, have a toggle key which enables/disables the normal FTL assist, so when you push a DPS key like "1", it doesn't have your toons change target to whatever the main is targeting.
Or alternatively, do something like set the current target as the Focus of your character. Then have a warcraft macro, on a keybind, which will cast whatever at your Focus should your toon have a Focus.
I think the latter example will be easier to implement. You would have a key which causes only that toon to assist your main character. And then have only that character do /Focus. Have another key, which can be sent to everyone; something like: /cast [Target=Focus,Exists] Whatever. If they don't have a Focus, it will not fire off... but if they do have a Focus, irregardless of IS Boxer causing them to change targets because of your DPSing, they will cast whatever at the target (Focus) which you individually assigned to them.
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