I feel like I'm in the same boat as you. I just posted something related as well.

I hate thinking too far ahead, but I feel like I'm screwing myself now if I don't join a big guild. I'm more worried that if I join someone else's guild... everyone will quit, drama will happen, etc like every other guild I've been in with complete strangers.

Since I have no irl friends playing, I want to have my own guild, but I don't think I can run a large guild, be a guild leader, etc. Part of the Allure of multi-boxing is marching at my own tune, especially since I work a ton.