You can define more then one set of views.
And quickly go into the options... /Grid Config ... to choose the current Layout.
Maybe have one which is alphabetical, and another which is your five specifically.

When others are in the party, switch to the alphabetical listing.
That way, you can still use the Grid frame for click healing and such.
And it will be the same order on every screen.
And allow the non-standard names etc.