My son had a pretty nasty situation crop up yesterday (solo play) and wanted to just see how others saw it.

My son is into pvp and left our guild recently to go to a pvp guild.

He's respecced a lot , and is dual specced. Now the dual spec says primary is holy and ret is secondary,
However, he plays ret as a primary spec and only took healing recently to try out a bit in arena for when I can faction transfer my shaman. He plays most of his arena games as ret.

What would you say determines what is considered the primary spec?

Here's why.

My son went on a VOA guild run yesterday, and was one of only two pallys in there.

He got whispered by a guy asking him to go holy for this run , my son responded that he was pl;aying as his main spec ret and staying ret. Nothing more from this guy.

So they down the first boss in VOA and the pally relentless item drops, my son is pleased at the prospect of rolling on it.

No roll takes place, no asking. The guy who whispered my son took them (turns out he was the raid leader).

So my son asks why there wasn't a roll for the pally item and this chump says it's because my sons main spec is holy.

I took over typing for my son at this point and said that his main spec was ret and he knew that, and had asked me to go holy for the raid and i'd refused. I figure if this guy wasn't a deliberate ninja he would have said Sorry my mistake, roll for it. Instead he says that I'm a liar.

I then called him a ninja. I would have expected some support - i mean it's a guild run, I can't believe ninja-ing something would be tolerated. Instead there's no sympathy and some pretty nasty name calling ensues.

My son's character gets kicked from the guild.

Now it probably was very childish - but given the reaction I pull the next boss.
I was going to leave it at that and go, but weirdly I get ressed, and this shaman starts to heal me, resulting in boss aggro and a wipe. I get booted from the raid before I can get back in.

So I was thinking about it last night and wondering if I'm in the wrong. Does the fact my son was saving money reglyphing and ending up with retribution as his secondary spec in the dual spec screen (although it is very much his main spec) mean that he couldn't roll on the loot?

If that is the case - then if my son had known that he would have sorted his duel specs out accordingly.

Mind you - I've never seen anything like it in the guilds I've been in.