I looked further into it, and my combination seems to work out ok, was just reading stuff and reacting on impulse. The Wizard in my group will be doing the most dps but the illusionist can throw up like a 35% aggro debuff on him forever, and the tank gets a ton of just natural hate in all types of ways. After reading through the forums more it came down to these problems for not holding hate
  • They spec'd bad in their aa tree's
  • undergeared compared to the dps
  • performing the wrong moves
So all in all, I'm pretty excited after what I found today. I'm going on vacation for about 9 days, and it sounds weird but I can't wait till I get back!! that's when the fun begins.. my final dilemma now is which race to pick haha, I wanna look sexy but slim.!! down to High Elf or Human, and High Elf definitely has some pretty strong advantages for being a caster.