Well i guess after a good nights sleep i got them all to work now when they switch over my macros say
/follow main
/follow focus
/assist focus

it does that on every one now so when i change i hit it once to follow twice to assist new main. though as long as im on my main they auto target what hes target so whew

and the other lone is /cast [target=focustarget] spell

It all works now gonan do more tweaking when i get home from work tonight