Tamu, its a bit of an evolution of sorts.

I went through the same things you went through. I would say it was a 50-50 split on my part. 50% of it being my fault, 50% being my teams fault. Often they will follow you around and just stare at you. Or better yet, they will follow you and stay with you so while you have 15 people at one node, the opposing faction is free to get the rest. (That has happened to me.)

For WSG I let teams know upfront that this was my weaksauce bg and any assistance would be greatly appreciated. I would often play mid d and ran the flag on occassion. When my wsg grind was over, I found I didnt do half bad.

Most people will tend to say that we have a multiboxer so its a instant loss. Your just gonna have to roll through it.

The other 50% was me. And that encompasses just learning what I can do as my own team and what I cant do. For example, macros and totems. I couldnt tell you how many times a single mage (SINGLE) would come in and just destroy me because I didnt know how to combat them. I am not by far the most advanced as of writing this but I am leaps and bounds beyond where I have come from.

Gear is also a horrid check point. It takes time to get the gear and yes your gonna get handled while you do it. But for me once I got that shield and weapon, things started to get better. Piece by piece things got better. I am at like 280 res right now and I feel like I am a force to be contended with.

All in all, your gonna have to take your lumps and just evolve your game play. I learn alot just by watching what other players do and getting my arse kicked. I went up against Aelli shamans mkII in av a few times. And we had similar gear for the most part and I still think overall he beat me pretty good with 4 shamans vs my 5. While I was scared fighting him I learned alot just by watching what he dropped, how he moved ect. So I have retrofitted my setup to move more seemlessly myself.