1. I avoid undercity because it is a bitch to move through with 5 toons.
2. I've really only had two hate tells in three months of boxing. I've also had one semi-hate tell where the person asked me if I was cheating. I told him/her if they thought I was cheating to contact a GM and ask. The conversation turned into a positive one, with me directing them to this site, and a thanks for the info.
3. The only way to really know if you've been reported is if you get a whisper from a GM or a letter via email. Haven't had either. The two Hate tells said they were reporting me but people say that all the time. I have had one conversation with a GM and that was because I "reported" myself. I let the GM know that I was boxing on my server, that all the accounts belonged to me, I was behind each keystroke, and I would be using all characters rolled. His/her exact words were, "thanks for the heads up," and he went away leaving me with a survey.
If hate is an issue for you, turn your chats / and chat bubbles off...at least for the time you are in major cities or in BG's. If someone pesters you, report them. What you are doing is legit. You have some asshats out there that think they know the rules. Arguing with them rarely works, because nobody likes to think they are wrong (see the numerous "ban multiboxing" threads in the WoW forums). I saw somewhere on this forum, and would love to give credit but I can't remember who said it, but that person said something like, "don't let others dictate how much fun you have." That changed my perspective. I hope you have fun.
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