ok i want to thank you all for the responses, it has been great, i took my pc to my mates place (he has an identical machine to me) and he dropped his 2 1gb ram sticks in mine and surprisingly there is no lag in av, i can run around shat fairly lag free, and we checked the ram usage and its peaking around 2.5gb - 2.6gb at its worst, so if i drop 2gb in there its reading 3.5 cause of crappy 32bit but its not paging 500mb when it peaks, so its fixed now, and im sure ill go back to enjoying bgs.


once again, thank you all.