My experiences -- 21-Jun-07
Setup: 2 box using autohotkey (1 monitor, 1 box)
I set the FPS etc (as indicated above) to 60 ... I was still being disconnected everytime I would stop (the /follow toon would immediately disco).
I kept digging through this site and noticed some comments about breaking /follow so I hooked a hotkey to step forward
So I close the gap on /follow and then drop the druid via "step forward" breaking /follow and continue with the warrior.
In 4 hours of game play AFTER that I did not disco one single time. So just our of curriosity I decided to not break follow and blam the druid discos as soon as the tank stops.
I don't know if this helps anyone or not but it seemed to work for me.
Riault