Just newely divorced... how the hell does a date work now-a-days??

[Deshu]

The divorce is final now, yay! I do not hate my ex-wife but it was just time, you know.

I'm 27... last time I went on a date I was 18. I have this girl asking me out who's a year younger than I. Is movies & dinner too archaic? Oh god... I'm nervous!

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[Drizzit]

I miss the dating scene :(. what i didn't miss is paying for everything.
If it is a first date don't take them to the movie. Movie = quite which = bad. Dinner is good plenty of time to talk. Do some kind of activity like bowling (what i did with my wife the first time), pool, mini golf, go carts, etc... something fun. Mini golf might be good, still have some summer time left (but i always went at night, it usually was better. The mood is better the course is dark with a couple of lights around. not to bight but just right).

[Duane]

I'd nix the movie and do something where you could sit, talk and get to know one another better. An informal coffee date or a less formal lunch in a quite restaurant would be my suggestion.

[Deshu]

Thanks for the tip :) I like the sound of that. A lunch date would easily be cool with me and I'd be more natural.

[Drizzit]

lol i met the wife from match.com

[Deshu]

You're asking for dating advice on an internet gaming forum (one of the geekier ones honestly)?

Seriously?Lol why not? I'm a geek :P She might as well know that now!

[Drizzit]

Make sure she can play video games, god if i could do it over i would pick someone that loves video games (lol... not even married 1 year)

[Deshu]

Make sure she can play video games, god if i could do it over i would pick someone that loves video games (lol... not even married 1 year)

Lol.. I did that the first time around... but then that led to arguments and "know-it-all" sessions!! Eventually she quit playing WoW claiming it was too addictive.... like such a thing exists!! Can never have TOO much of a good thing lol.

*Note... this did NOT lead to our divorce... irreconcible differences did lol* (sorry for spelling errors)

[Drizzit]

Well at least she cannot take you WOW accounts. Thank you Blizzard for your stupid rules :P

[Vyndree]

Suvega and I met at Microsoft orientation.

He was a WoW geek, and I was a Guild Wars geek. I made him play GW and he made me play WoW to see which was the better online game. And then my GW account got hacked.

I still don't think it was a fair detemination. Mitigating circumstances with the hacker.

In any case, I ended up playing WoW at his house all the time and eventually we moved in together and started multiboxing.



First dates are just lame and awkward, gaming is forever.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=9AEhrxZOH8o
http://youtube.com/watch?v=e5N1yGXOwek

[Zite83]

Never do movies... they are a waste of time that could be used to get to know each other... Dinner is nice... but nothing fancy don't waste too much money on the first date.. also ... find a place to walk around after dinner.. or some simple activity... having the scenery change periodically will help bring up conversions. And talking and getting to know each other is what first dates are for... No movies!!! :thumbup:

[Deshu]

Sounds like great advice thanks.... now if only I can find other topics of conversation than WoW and Multiboxng.... ?(

Btw... she's best friends with my roommate's girlfriend and they are both big gamers so I'm hoping she is too!

[Marathon]

Gratz on Being on Single Again-

Here is a brief list of Marathons in Florida. I hear that Miami Marathon is awesome with huge crowds and I know of several people who have run the marathons in Disney World and they said they where a blast too. Now I know what your thinking what does this have to do with dating advice. Simple. Join a running club in your area and train for one of these marathons. I recommend USA Fit here is there website http://www.usafit.com

The running clubs in your area are just not running clubs they are social clubs. Where while you are running you are chatting and meeting new people. Also most of the running clubs will have social events through out the year where you hang out for drinks and food etc. And while your club may not be full of single people, they will all know people who are single who they can hook you up with. And believe it or not Running events like the marathon or half marathon are a great place to meet new people. Further more at the races you can do what I do which is write your name on your chest before a race and while your are running people will cheer for you and call out your name. And this is even a better way to meet new people because after they call your name you can stop and ask what thier name is etc ... It may sound silly but it works.

Now you may not be a runner and that is kewl. But if your recently divorced, and you want a way to really change your life, get out there meet new people, maybe lose some weight, maybe tone some muscle I highly recommend running in one of these events. There are no bums running the marathon and completing one of these races will give you the self confidence to do anything.

And bottomline what better way to start your new single life then by setting some fitness goals and really getting yourself in great shape.


Marathon of the Palm Beaches West Palm Beach, Florida
A1A Marathon Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
Breast Cancer Marathon Jacksonville, Florida
Florida Gulf Beaches Marathon Clearwater, Florida
ING Miami Marathon Miami, Florida
Disney World Marathon Orlando, Florida
Space Coast Marathon Melbourne, Florida

Best of luck on the dating scence and I hope this helps :thumbup:

[Deshu]

Running a marathon.... hmmm.... I must say... the longest time I ever spent running was when I was on auto run and went afk and forgot to come back until 30 minutes later to find myself still alive and running thru terrain (this wasn't wow, this was asheron's call).

I'm not a long distance runner and I have a personal fitness trainer I see twice a week (thru work yay) but it's a novel idea indeed. I just think me, sweaty and smelly, isn't the first impression I want to make upon a lovely woman for dating purposes :D

[geoffdavison]

Sounds like great advice thanks.... now if only I can find other topics of conversation than WoW and Multiboxng.... ?(

Btw... she's best friends with my roommate's girlfriend and they are both big gamers so I'm hoping she is too!Just a thought.. try listening to her.. ask her questions about herself.. and find out what she likes to do..

[Lyonheart]

I'm 42. Been gaming since 'PONG" and have yet to date a gamer Gal. The last three all said they were "cool" with it. But yet I'm single again lol. And its been games ( EQ the first time, DaoC the second and WoW this last time) I will never date anyone that is not a gamer again..period. There is no way to explain, relate, or make since of what we do to someone who does not do it. They just don't GET IT!

Example of one of my RL conversations
Her- " Hey honey can you run to the store and grab some more milk real fast, so i can finish dinner? "
ME -" Ok Baby, just let me get to a safe spot so my guy doesn't die"
Her- " umm just pause it and go get the milk please!"
Me- "Well sweetheart, I cant pause it. I have to be someplace safe. There is no "pause" in this game. Ill only be a few minutes and ill go get the milk, ok?"
Her- "F%$K IT, Ill go get it myself!"

In a non gamers mind we are obsessed, or even possessed with "the game" and even though they start out supportive in the beginning, they end up angry and bitter like the above example.

I have two choices for love in my life. QUIT gaming or find a gamer 8) And if i have been doing this since i was a wee little boy, what are the chances of my quitting? ZILCH!!

[Marathon]

I have a personal fitness trainer I see twice a week (thru work yay)

I am jealous :D

[entoptic]

well are you trying to get your winkie wet or meet someone for a date and see what happends from there? I feel as tho you should stay away from anything serious and just find someone to play with your ding dong.

Easy way to hook 101

Find a rave. Eat some E, find a hottie on it as well. Done. People :thumbsup: are so easy nowadays it hurts me.

[Marathon]

What you've described above is just a very immature self-centered person. Gaming was probably just a catalyst to the issue... not the route cause.

Your statement reminded me of an article that I read a while back.

http://www.gamegrep.com/news/7464-warning_world_of_warcraft_may_cause_divorce/

[entoptic]

In any case, I ended up playing WoW at his house all the time and eventually we moved in together and started multiboxing.


That's hawt. Think about that. It's like cyber or sumtin.

[entoptic]

LOL i love how all the married people are giving dating advice. That shit cracks me the hell up.

PLEASE DO NOT GO DATE SOMEONE! Just go out there and find yourself again. The women will come to you ONCE you find YOURSELF again. Otherwise you are making weird situations trying to force a date.

I said it before and I will say it again. Get your WINKIE WET!!!!

[Vyndree]

In any case, I ended up playing WoW at his house all the time and eventually we moved in together and started multiboxing.

That's hawt. Think about that. It's like cyber or sumtin.

Actually, that's called real life. Not everything is perverted.

It's not your job to watch out for Deshu's "winkie". If he wants to date, let him date. He's an adult, he knows how to take care of himself.

[entoptic]

I never said everything was perverted but that statement was kinda off if you don't know what multiboxing is.

[Lyonheart]

They just don't GET IT!

Disagree.

My wife is not a gamer at heart (she'll play tetris and stuff... but thats it). But she understands that I'm a gamer, and gives me my space. When I say "need a minute to finish this" she's like "ok" and waits. She tried playing WoW (She hijacked my Warrior once while I was AFK and took him for a spin.... lol), but just really isn't that interested in it.

But she's not pushy with it (95% of the time at least). Its a mutual understanding.

What you've described above is just a very immature self-centered person. Gaming was probably just a catalyst to the issue... not the route cause.

Well I know that there are gamer/non gamer couples that work. And i would love to be able to find someone who would be cool with it for real. But I'm not basing what i said on just my own experiences. There are many examples of this. And I also want to add that these relationships all lasted a few years before my "not giving up games for them" ended. I made sure i spent much time with each of them, we had "our nights out" etc. I own my own business and am a good provider as well. trust me when i say that they all ended because I game. Do I game a lot? Yes. 5 nights a week, but they all new that when they met me.

So i am very happy for anyone who can co exist with a non gamer and game "guilt or stress free". I just wont put myself or another woman through that again.

[Deshu]

Example of one of my RL conversations
Her- " Hey honey can you run to the store and grab some more milk real fast, so i can finish dinner? "
ME -" Ok Baby, just let me get to a safe spot so my guy doesn't die"
Her- " umm just pause it and go get the milk please!"
Me- "Well sweetheart, I cant pause it. I have to be someplace safe. There is no "pause" in this game. Ill only be a few minutes and ill go get the milk, ok?"
Her- "F%$K IT, Ill go get it myself!"

ROFL... my father started playing WoW when BC came out. The above is almost an exact redramatization of one of their typical conversations at night.... except it was over butter, not milk lol.

My father tells me "when your mother passese, God bless her heart, I'm done with women! HAHA

[Vyndree]

Easy way to hook 101

Find a rave. Eat some E, find a hottie on it as well. Done. People are so easy nowadays it hurts me.

It's like cyber or sumtin.

I said it before and I will say it again. Get your WINKIE WET!!!!

I never said everything was perverted but that statement was kinda off if you don't know what multiboxing is.

So far I've found something in each one of your posts that is distasteful, particularly to the female community.

I'm going to make a kind request, as a woman and not a moderator, that you tone it down a little.

[entoptic]

They just don't GET IT!

Disagree.

My wife is not a gamer at heart (she'll play tetris and stuff... but thats it). But she understands that I'm a gamer, and gives me my space. When I say "need a minute to finish this" she's like "ok" and waits. She tried playing WoW (She hijacked my Warrior once while I was AFK and took him for a spin.... lol), but just really isn't that interested in it.

But she's not pushy with it (95% of the time at least). Its a mutual understanding.

What you've described above is just a very immature self-centered person. Gaming was probably just a catalyst to the issue... not the route cause.

Well I know that there are gamer/non gamer couples that work. And i would love to be able to find someone who would be cool with it for real. But I'm not basing what i said on just my own experiences. There are many examples of this. And I also want to add that these relationships all lasted a few years before my "not giving up games for them" ended. I made sure i spent much time with each of them, we had "our nights out" etc. I own my own business and am a good provider as well. trust me when i say that they all ended because I game. Do I game a lot? Yes. 5 nights a week, but they all new that when they met me.

So i am very happy for anyone who can co exist with a non gamer and game "guilt or stress free". I just wont put myself or another woman through that again.
I am in a great relationship with a non gamer. She actually wants nothing to do with it and is fine by that. She knows how to get my attention and I know how to put a game down and just let my guys die. She even understands that I am playing with real people and that she can't just butt into the game to get what she wants as it is like me busting up her and her girlies doing something.

We still go out and do tons of stuff together. We are both circus preformers, go to festivals and enjoy shaking our asses on the dance floor. Mebbe it works out because the sexual spark is still very much there and we both work on creating time for each other. I have no clue really.

[Deshu]

I'm a mature adult and I'm looking for a mature woman. As much as I might have loved back in my younger days, playing the field... it is not the same now. I have 2 kids, 1 that is 8 and another that's 9 months old... so hopefully you can understand :)

[entoptic]

Easy way to hook 101

Find a rave. Eat some E, find a hottie on it as well. Done. People are so easy nowadays it hurts me.

It's like cyber or sumtin.

I said it before and I will say it again. Get your WINKIE WET!!!!

I never said everything was perverted but that statement was kinda off if you don't know what multiboxing is.

So far I've found something in each one of your posts that is distasteful, particularly to the female community.

I'm going to make a kind request, as a woman and not a moderator, that you tone it down a little.



Omg come on are you serious? Girls want it just as bad as guys and they do ALL KINDS OF CRAZY SHIT just like guys to get it. There is nothing there that is mean to women and if you think so then you are entitled to your opinion but there is nothing there to warrant a distasteful remark or to say its particularly against females.

I have apparently touched on something that gets your feelings all worked up so I will simmer down some.

Look all I am saying is that you are all giving this guy BAD ADVICE. he just got out of a marriage and you all are trying to put him back into the same circle he just came out off.

I am saying go out and have fun. Let it come to you, don't force it.

[entoptic]

I'm a mature adult and I'm looking for a mature woman. As much as I might have loved back in my younger days, playing the field... it is not the same now. I have 2 kids, 1 that is 8 and another that's 9 months old... so hopefully you can understand :)Ahh Deshu now I understand. But please don't go and just jump into dating. Take is slow. Mebbe playing the field is not your thing but hoping into the dating scene again should not be as well.

[keyclone]

PLEASE DO NOT GO DATE SOMEONE! Just go out there and find yourself again. The women will come to you ONCE you find YOURSELF again.ok.. i'm fairly certain that you, standing there 'finding yourself', will not attract any women

maybe a blast of mace or two....

edit:

I'm going to make a kind request, as a woman and not a moderator, that you tone it down a little. and this is the chant you'd hear as they fumble in their purse for the can

Omg come on are you serious? Girls want it just as bad as guys and they do ALL KINDS OF CRAZY SHIT just like guys to get it and this is the noise you hear just before the 'pling' of the firing pin...


:D

[Vyndree]

Look all I am saying is that you are all giving this guy BAD ADVICE. he just got out of a marriage and you all are trying to put him back into the same circle he just came out off.

I am saying go out and have fun. Let it come to you, don't force it.

This stuff above is advice, and totally welcome to be discussed :)




As for the rest, encouraging him to get himself and a woman drugged so that they can't make proper decisions, you're inviting the potential for very illegal things to happen. While some women are very open, sexual beings (as are some men), not everyone appreciates the heavy sexual language -- I understand the IRC is very open for NSFW discussions, but I'd just like to keep it off the forums. The forums are a bit more permanent and have a lasting future impact on the opinions other people make of our community.

That's where I had an issue, and I appreciate the fact that you're willing to keep it down. :) Thanks.

[Ellay]

The marathon idea sounds awesome, but to take someone on a date... well I'd suppose they would have to be interested first!

As for the Disney marathon, it is insanely popular - the thing sells out extremely fast.

[entoptic]

Look all I am saying is that you are all giving this guy BAD ADVICE. he just got out of a marriage and you all are trying to put him back into the same circle he just came out off.

I am saying go out and have fun. Let it come to you, don't force it.

This stuff above is advice, and totally welcome to be discussed :)




As for the rest, encouraging him to get himself and a woman drugged so that they can't make proper decisions, you're inviting the potential for very illegal things to happen. While some women are very open, sexual beings (as are some men), not everyone appreciates the heavy sexual language -- I understand the IRC is very open for NSFW discussions, but I'd just like to keep it off the forums. The forums are a bit more permanent and have a lasting future impact on the opinions other people make of our community.

That's where I had an issue, and I appreciate the fact that you're willing to keep it down. :) Thanks.I hear ya! I am sorry but I was not trying to sound like rape or anything. Just have some fun, the drugs let the gaurds between people down and lets them be well themselves in a sense. I won't mention that again and I do respect woman and their boundaries. I am on the west coast and most people here are cool with that idea. I guess I need to travel more...

[entoptic]

PLEASE DO NOT GO DATE SOMEONE! Just go out there and find yourself again. The women will come to you ONCE you find YOURSELF again.ok.. i'm fairly certain that you, standing there 'finding yourself' will not attract any women

maybe a blast of mace or two....



Actually woman find men who have found themselves WAY more attractive then men who have not. It's a proven fact and I don't need to be a girl to tell you that. Why do you think most woman go for mature men, men that have goals, men that have their shit together, men that feel comfortable doing what they do instead of following another person around like a puppy dog.

[d0z3rr]

Good luck Deshu. Just look out for your kids too. When I was a kid and my parents seperated I despised every person they brought home that they had been dating. I also infinitely despised it if the people they were dating tried to act like a parent to me. The best thing my parents did when dating was to never bring them around me. I always hated meeting my dad or mom's new interest. I mean HATED.

Maybe that's just me.

Even to this day I cannot stand meeting any new girlfriends my dad has. It's not like I want them to be single forever, it's just that there's a part of me that wants the old mom and dad back. I think it's great that they both would be dating people, but I do not care to meet them or hear about it. Which I know is kinda mean and close-minded, but whatever. My Dad has brought home some annoying ass women before and it really pissed me off. Ok rant off.....wow got a little carried away.

[keyclone]

Actually woman find men who have found themselves WAY more attractive then men who have not. It's a proven fact and I don't need to be a girl to tell you that. Why do you think most woman go for mature men, men that have goals, men that have their shit together, men that feel comfortable doing what they do instead of following another person around like a puppy dog.a sense of humor can go a long way...

as for mature men that have goals... i think you're right. that and a few billion seemed to work wonders for James Howard Marshall II ('http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._Howard_Marshall')

[entoptic]

Good luck Deshu. Just look out for your kids too. When I was a kid and my parents seperated I despised every person they brought home that they had been dating. I also infinitely despised it if the people they were dating tried to act like a parent to me. The best thing my parents did when dating was to never bring them around me. I always hated meeting my dad or mom's new interest. I mean HATED.

Maybe that's just me.

Even to this day I cannot stand meeting any new girlfriends my dad has. It's not like I want them to be single forever, it's just that there's a part of me that wants the old mom and dad back. I think it's great that they both would be dating people, but I do not care to meet them or hear about it. Which I know is kinda mean and close-minded, but whatever. My Dad has brought home some annoying ass women before and it really pissed me off. Ok rant off.....wow got a little carried away.

very VERY good advice. I did not even think of the kids... probably cause I don't have any and both my parents are still together. :thumbsup:

[Fleecy]

Torrs <3 TheElles ('http://www.dual-boxing.com/forums/index.php?page=User&userID=8826') (my gamer GF/wife). :love:

Couldn't ask for anyone better - well, maybe a woman who gave me epics maybe, or one who bought me an epic flyer, or or may if she power leveled my new girls, or .... :P

Met at my mothers (re)wedding. It was love at first instance. :thumbsup:

[Bradster]

You're asking for dating advice on an internet gaming forum (one of the geekier ones honestly)?

Seriously?
lol

Last time I dated was 2002, 2003 when I met my wife. Our first date I took her out to eat then to some band playing in town. Next one dinner then went to a park with a waterfall at night, giddy giddy.

[Bradster]

I don’t know about you guys but I didn’t find someone I liked until I stopped looking, I swore it’s the best way to find someone. For a year I dated a lot, met lots of different people. None of which was really what I was looking for. At this point I’ve grown up a bit and was looking for more than just a one nighter.

After having yet another boring date I just decided F it! I’m done!

One of my best friends says “hey man, I found the perfect woman for you. I’m telling ya both figure and personality wise you two will hit it off”. Said I don’t care don’t even bother thanks anyway.

Week or two later I had to drop by work to pickup something, my friend drives by, stops asks if I wanted to hang out, I said sure. Had no idea she was in the car. So we pull in to the parking lot, she gets out and it took everything I had not to say out loud holy shit! That’s the biggest rack I’ve ever seen! (I’m a rack guy).

Week later we went on our first date.

[Knytestorme]

Non-Gaming girls are fine to date/marry as a gamer...it's the ones that don't have an understanding of boundaries, space or that what someone is doing may actually be important.

My last non-gamer g/f ended with a breakup over Everquest. I was guildleader of #2/3 guild on our server and we'd planned a progression night to kill Rallos Zek in Plane of Power expansion, we'd been working on him for about 2 days and knew that this was the night (had had this week booked out for about a fortnight on forums to make sure everyone was there and prepped)....about an hour into the raid we'd gotten him to < 50% and my g/f turns up with no call or anything, walks in to my place, goes to the bedroom, gets undressed and hops into bed (at this stage we'd been together a few months).

I explain to her that I currently have ~50 people relying on me and expecting me to be there and I can't just drop things because she decided she wanted to turn up, that I shouldn't be too much longer but it could also take a few hours. Six hours later RZ was dead and g/f was running out of my place in tears....I made the right choice given the way things finally ended (think I can say I'm the first non-celebrity male to be stalked for over a year) :D

Things didn't go badly here because she wasn't a gamer, things went badly because she has a constant "victim" mentality and only ever looked at things from her perspective. If you want to find someone for long term, both of you need to be able to respect and understand that the other may have hobbies you think weird or strange but be willing to respect what they need while they are involved in them as much as you'd expect them to respect your needs at the time.

[ChaoticMonk]

I wouldn't trade my gamer wife for the world.

We met on an MMO called Risk Your Life where I was a GM (what a flop!). We both ended up in the same guild and got to know each other, only thing that sucked was I was in London, UK and she was Spokane, WA and to cut a long story short *points at current location to the left*

We both play wow (we both have 2 accounts) and I truely couldn't ask for more.

Our dates consisted of raids and leveling sessions as well as house jumping (you could climb the houses in RYL and get pretty high up) and taking out puny humans...good times :D

[Bradster]

Six hours later RZ was dead and g/f was running out of my place in tears....This would make a great Signature lol

[Binaryzero]

Well at least she cannot take you WOW accounts. Thank you Blizzard for your stupid rules :PIf the court decrees that the account to them, Blizz will make it happen, there is a post on the general forums a few years ago where someone was left an account in a will and they were allow to keep it by Blizz.

[d0z3rr]

I wouldn't trade my gamer wife for the world.

We met on an MMO called Risk Your Life where I was a GM (what a flop!). We both ended up in the same guild and got to know each other, only thing that sucked was I was in London, UK and she was Spokane, WA and to cut a long story short *points at current location to the left*

We both play wow (we both have 2 accounts) and I truely couldn't ask for more.

Our dates consisted of raids and leveling sessions as well as house jumping (you could climb the houses in RYL and get pretty high up) and taking out puny humans...good times :D

Wow. You left London for Spokane?!?!?! I have only been outside of the US once in my life, and it was when I went to England. London is like 30 times better than Washington DC!! Loved that city. Pubs are the greatest thing ever too.

[Lokked]

My wife is a non-gamer, and I found out (too late into the relationship to make a brash decision) that she left her ex of 8 years partially because of his video game addictions (however, his addiction caused him to not help out at all with chores, forget important dates/events and basically not pay any attention to her).

I had explained to her that I played games during portions of my free time, but she shrugged it off until we moved in together. She blew up at me after the first couple times I chose to play a game, and after calming her down, we reasoned things out peacefully and she doesn't have a problem with it, as long as I fulfill my duties as a husband/roommate/father/lover, et cetera.

All the above, however, is only as per my best knowledge of the situation as coming from a male. You never know with some females. Might be bottled up under high pressures as we speak....
;)

Make sure you understand her priorities and whether or not she's at an appropriate maturity level for you. I figure that if you are with a non-gamer, being a gamer you would want to stay away from the clingy or even remotely clingy types, but I'm sure that's a gimme.

Have fun!

[Moxy]

This is quite the interesting convo. Fun to hear everyone's perspectives. I'm still single... but I don't mind it all that much. I mean, there are lonely times of course, but there are also alot of really cool things. I get to spend my money traveling around and competing, doing outdoor adventure sports, and multiboxing. :) Its kind of funny in a way... I must just be clueless about women (even through I grew up w/ 3 sisters) because alot of potential relationships end pretty quickly. Last serious one I was in ended because I wouldn't join her Dad's cult. Talk about a life experience...

Anyway, kids in a relationship makes it far more complicated, but it also kind of sorts out alot of the... superficiality. So, good luck man. And my best to your kids too... divorce is no joke for them.

[Deshu]

Wow! I never expected such an outpouring of advice, stories and laughs over this topic, but I'm pleased! lol

So... the result was:

I said yes, she had pursued me twice prior, to a dinner date. Carrabba's Italian (love and honor thy Italian food is one of my ten commandments - blame my ex-wife). Meal was great and dinner conversation was great. Afterwards we went to the pool hall we've been to with friends before and played some 1 on 1 pool and had a few drinks. Was great fun also. Then we sat in my truck after the date outside her apartment just talking for 30 to 45 mins. The night ended with a steamy goodnight kiss but nothing else... I am a gentleman after all :whistling: .

It wasn't nerve wracking, I got real comfortable after we got to the restaurant and realized I had nothing to worry about. She seemed into me and I definitely think I'm into her. I'm not ready to dive head first into a relationship but I'm looking forward to some dating and fun.

And no, I don't think I've moved on too fast. My ex and I were on the outs for years and I left the house 2 or 3 months ago. In fact, I offered to watch our kids when she went out on her first date last month.

And oh.... by the way..... she is into gaming. :love: :thumbsup:

(Going out again tomorrow afternoon for a lunch date, woots!)

[Deshu]

Damn I feel like a young lad again.... lol

[Moxy]

Grats- here is to the future. :thumbsup:

[ChaoticMonk]

Glad it went well, best of luck :D

[Crayonbox]

This thread has gone from simple man asking for advice to "Today on Oprah" :P

[Sajuuk]

Wait.... I'm not the only multiboxer in Spokane (Valley)? ./boggle.

./wave.

[Wilbur]

Wow. You left London for Spokane?!?!?! I have only been outside of the US once in my life, and it was when I went to England. London is like 30 times better than Washington DC!! Loved that city. Pubs are the greatest thing ever too.

/me agrees :)

[Noxxy]

If I can make one honest, humble hope for you and your future girl - make sure she is a gaming geek too...

Married 17 yrs... me = huge pc geek, her = tv geek... two seperate rooms x 17 yrs = epic phail

[aNiMaL]

Move both the tv and the puter in the same room \o/

Tbh, having a game geek gf worked great for me.
Untill she decided she was gaming to much :s

[Ðeceased]

Tbh, having a game geek gf worked great for me.
Untill she decided she was gaming to much :s

this!

worst thing is, my last gf was even more so then me, which was great ^^ cos I never felt guilty playing. But she went cold turkey (after a yr and a half) and expected me to do the same at the drop of a field mouse's fart. A week later and no more gf. Hit me as hard and as fast as a 5x NS EM Chain lightning combo :S - probably wasn't the gaming tho :S I work long hours ;( she just never noticed whilst she was gaming :rolleyes:
anyways back on topic :) hope it's going well m8y :) just make sure you know what you want out of any new relationship :)

[Deshu]

This thread has gone from simple man asking for advice to "Today on Oprah" :PROFLMAO!!

[Deshu]

Tbh, having a game geek gf worked great for me.
Untill she decided she was gaming to much :s



this!

worst thing is, my last gf was even more so then me, which was great ^^ cos I never felt guilty playing. But she went cold turkey (after a yr and a half) and expected me to do the same at the drop of a field mouse's fart. A week later and no more gf. Hit me as hard and as fast as a 5x NS EM Chain lightning combo :S - probably wasn't the gaming tho :S I work long hours ;( she just never noticed whilst she was gaming :rolleyes:
anyways back on topic :) hope it's going well m8y :) just make sure you know what you want out of any new relationship :)



Sadly been down that road before with my ex. We played a few games together, Asheron's Call, Earth and Beyond. I thought it was great because she wasn't a gamer initially but my cousin and his wife and I played together and since we were always at each other's houses we always talked about it, so she got into it too.

Then WoW came along and BAM we were hooked! She leveled up several characters above mine. About two years ago she decides that it's "too consuming" and "too addictive" and even the kids were playing at that point. Unfortunately their playing days ceased when hers did but not mine.

She was cool with it but we drifted apart and since then she's never gone back to games and doesn't want to.... WTF ?( I refuse to feel guilty for playing, I'm watching my father go through that hell now lol.



That's why I'm making it plain and clear up front before any emotions could get tangled up.

[Silaspop]

My girlfriend is a hardcore WoW player, that I think she only sleeps on tuesday mornings, lol. (Like now. Went to sleep at 2, will wake up at 3) At first she wasn't, she thought it was stupid but then all I had to do was show her that you can make little dresses and pick flowers and stuff. She actually hit 70 before I did.

I kinda want to post some of the pictures I've taken... you literally see a pile of of soda cans grow around the desk. Last week, I had to work a 16 hour shift (In a hot steel factory mind you) and I forgot my lunch and there aren't any places open as late as I work, so I called up and asked her to drive my lunch out to me and she said sure. I didn't get lunch that day because doing a ZA Pug was SO important. When I try to relax, she goes off about guild drama.

She's so involved in the game, that she doesn't really have anything else to talk about. If we have company over, she doesn't know how to communicate in a real social setting so she sits there out of the loop because she doesn't really know whats happened lately. If one of our WoW friends comes over, we can all sit there for Hours talking about WoW, but if some of her old friends come over, its total awkwardness. Doing regular tasks became such a problem too, like I would be tired on the weekends and we would agree that she would do the laundry if I vacuum and do the dishes and stuff, and I would end up doing everything.

I love my girlfriend, and I like WoW, but there's times where I wish she didn't play WoW at all. I'm not even going to get into the whole mess about kids going psycho because they are denied access to see her on cam or something, lol.

[-silencer-]

Eh.. if you have the option, and you love gaming, make sure you find someone who's at least somewhat into it or she just won't understand. I don't ever break/forgo plans with my girlfriend for WoW or even talk about it much, but a conversation game up about gaming recently, and she looked at me like I had 3 heads when I said I'll sit down to game for 3-4 hours a session once or twice a week. I told her it's better than watching reality TV for hours every night of the week.. I'm not sure I'd want to see her reaction to the gaming if we ever live together. I'd probably have to sacrifice some game time for more 'traditional' hobbies I enjoy.. playing guitars & building cars. But I'm okay with that. Would it be easier and more of a bonding experience if my girlfriend was at least partially into it? Definitely.. but you can't center your entire life around a video game.

[badashh]

think the best place to start looking is


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[Jorai]

just don't tell her about multi-boxing until at least the third date because once she hears about it..she'll want you so bad and you don't want to move TOO fast or you might lose respect for her.

[SilverSlice]

here is the link for all us single gamer's,
i've actually signed opp, and who knows...
sure beats the crap out of dating pages like www.match.com and so on.

edit: ofc i forgot to link to the gamer's date site, http://www.contactrealm.com
it is just starting up btw not much going on in there, and mostly men, :(


Silver

[TheHamburglar]

I finally get to use some of the stuff i've learned in psychology.


If you do decided to go to dinner, Go to a dimly lit place. There was a study done that I cant seem to find. Anyways it found that because of the low light causes your pupils dilate, which it just happens is a body language sign that people like what they are seeing. So dinner at a place with small booths or semi small tables can also help. Try and find out some things she likes, Movie, Activities, Her favorite memory from growing up, It's sometimes best to lead in this question by telling yours first. Don't try to force this kind of question in. If the opportunity presents itself go with it.
Example: "When i was a kid i remember this one summer My parents(Or Mom, Dad) we drove cross country to visit so and so." Tell some of the funny happenings along the way ect

If its dinner and a movie DO NOT GO TO A MOVIE THEATER. Its just bad for the mood, Food stuck everywhere sticky floors Crappy chairs no talking ect.

A Movie in the park is I think a better idea than the movie theaters. The type of movie can be just about anything new or old pretty much what ever is playing(They don't normally play crappy movies at these things) But comedy's work fairly well it can give her an excuse to touch you lean on your shoulder ect. Check out the area before hand so you know if you need to bring a blanket or something to sit in/on comfortably. If the movie isnt going over well you can always just walk around the park and just BS along the way and go grab a coffee/Drinks ect.

Bowling can be great, if she like bowling that is of course. ;)


A Comedy club on an open mic night can sometimes be a fun idea. I've only taken one date to one and it went ok, Sit at the bar makes it easier to face each other when talking. Most times the bar is far away from the stage so you can have a conversation with out being to distracted or being distracting. Going when there is a good/famous comedian performing can hurt the date more than help it. You'll both be focusing more on the performer and less each other.

Its easier for most people to talk about themselves than to ask questions, but don't make her do all the talking! Don't be stiff when you talk try to be animated while talking use your hands it helps keep her attention on you. Ask engaging questions that will make her talk about herself and you about yourself. Questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no aren't very engaging.



Wow way more than i was planning on typing ^^ , Time to sleep lol :sleeping:

[aNiMaL]

but you can't center your entire life around a video game.Uh what??
I feel misinformed :D

[-silencer-]

The divorce is final now, yay! I do not hate my ex-wife but it was just time, you know.

I'm 27... last time I went on a date I was 18. I have this girl asking me out who's a year younger than I. Is movies & dinner too archaic? Oh god... I'm nervous!

8|
No dinner and movie for a first date. If you don't know the girl very well, just go for a drink, coffee, or ice cream. Something quick that *can* last longer if you both want it to. If you know her well enough to get along, or for a 2nd date.. any simple activity works:
Playing pool, bowling, darts, basketball, frisbee, rollerblading, whatever. Something to get active in some form so you have something to 'do' while you're talking and getting to know each other.

[TheElles]

Torrs <3 TheElles ('http://www.dual-boxing.com/forums/index.php?page=User&userID=8826') (my gamer GF/wife). :love:

Couldn't ask for anyone better - well, maybe a woman who gave me epics maybe, or one who bought me an epic flyer, or or may if she power leveled my new girls, or .... :P

Met at my mothers (re)wedding. It was love at first instance. :thumbsup:

:love: awww too cute :D

Loveses you too

Meanwhile yayay first date Deshu GRATS! Have fun mate and go with the flow :thumbup: