View Full Version : Something I need to tell you all
blast3r
10-02-2009, 09:40 PM
I have already told my boss(s), coworkers, and friends from the real world and now it is time to tell youall.
I need to do this because it lets me be myself. I don't expect everyone to understand or accept it but I do ask for our respect.
The technical explanation is that I am lowering my testosterone and increasing my estrogen.
I am doing this because I have never felt right in my male role in society. I am currently on hormone replacement therapy.
My goal right now is to remove my male aspects and replace them with my female aspects. I am not sure how far I will be taking this (as far as the female part goes). I am happier than I have ever been in my life. this is really good for me!
I think should tell you all because I am who I am and you all should know who I am.
Oathbreaker
10-02-2009, 09:47 PM
As long as you don't switch over to Alliance too, you'll still be cool in my book.
Khatovar
10-02-2009, 11:34 PM
Big step. I hope it goes well for you and that you're surrounded by supportive people as you start your new life.
Moorea
10-02-2009, 11:47 PM
don't leave your computer unattended
ps: looks like I'm the only who thought it was maybe a prank - sorry about it - good luck
suicidesspyder
10-03-2009, 12:38 AM
Well good for you the biggest step is telling now the rest will be so easy cept the money. Right damn money always in the way lol. Keep us informed on how everything is going, and like you said you are who you are dont let ne one hinder that.
Sajuuk
10-03-2009, 01:33 AM
I honestly can't say that I wouldn't give you a sideways glance if I walked by you, but if it makes you happy.
But then, I'm really quite ignorant in this kind of thing. So, best of luck!
shaeman
10-03-2009, 07:40 AM
don't leave your computer unattended
That was my first thought too ( i once got back to my desk and found that i'd sent an email professing love to a male colleague - I'm male).
If this is genuine I wish you good luck. Everyone has a right to be happy, it's a big step and i'm sure you've thought about it at great length.
blast3r
10-03-2009, 07:55 AM
Thanks for the kind words! And you don't have to worry about me going Alliance. They smell funny.
If anyone has any questions at all feel free to ask. I know a lot don't understand it and I like to educate people on the subject if they want to be educated. :)
blast3r
10-03-2009, 07:56 AM
That was my first thought too ( i once got back to my desk and found that i'd sent an email professing love to a male colleague - I'm male).
If this is genuine I wish you good luck. Everyone has a right to be happy, it's a big step and i'm sure you've thought about it at great length.
I work in Information Security so I never leave my computers in a vulnerable situation. :) That is kind of funny. BTW, did you get a date? LOL
F9thRet
10-03-2009, 08:15 AM
Best of luck to you Blaster.
I can kind of Sympathize with you, as I my oldest Son Chris, is gay. Not the same thing as what you are going through, But the ability to voice such things to friends in family is a huge step. It took him a long time to accept it himself, But he did have me and his mother being very supportive of him.
I hope you find the same thing man.
Stephen
shaeman
10-03-2009, 08:22 AM
I work in Information Security so I never leave my computers in a vulnerable situation. :) That is kind of funny. BTW, did you get a date? LOL
hehe. That would have been funny, not sure my wife would have seen the funny side though :)
Khatovar
10-03-2009, 08:36 AM
If anyone has any questions at all feel free to ask. I know a lot don't understand it and I like to educate people on the subject if they want to be educated. :)
Back when I worked at Starbucks we had a regular who went through the full kit and caboodle. Total sweetheart and I admire anyone who has the guts to say "This isn't who I am" and do something other than bitch and moan about it.
Goodluck to your new life! Gays are always about fun and always know how to make you laugh. I know most them go to Thailand because they have the cheapest deal in terms of transplant. Just make sure that your hormonal medication will not leave you any side effect.
Bigfish
10-03-2009, 01:49 PM
I'm not going to pretend to condone this, but I will say you have to do what you have to do to be happy, and wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.
Babysir
10-03-2009, 02:04 PM
Best of luck to you. I respect and admire your courage, it must not be easy to express this to people. There are many who won't not respond as kindly as many have here. I was honestly surprised at how understanding and accepting the posts have been. Truly a mature group here. I hope this brings you the happiness you would like. :D
Bettysue
10-03-2009, 02:44 PM
Keep the forum avatars cool and I have absolutely no problem with this plan of yours, but the first kitten I see and we're done :P
Seriously though hormone replacement therapy...is this a real thing? I've never heard of such a procedure.
blast3r
10-03-2009, 02:46 PM
Goodluck to your new life! Gays are always about fun and always know how to make you laugh. I know most them go to Thailand because they have the cheapest deal in terms of transplant. Just make sure that your hormonal medication will not leave you any side effect.
This made me laugh. BTW, I am not gay. :)
blast3r
10-03-2009, 06:12 PM
Keep the forum avatars cool and I have absolutely no problem with this plan of yours, but the first kitten I see and we're done :P
Seriously though hormone replacement therapy...is this a real thing? I've never heard of such a procedure.
I don't like cats so you don't have to worry! :)
Yes, HRT is the real thing. It will change a lot of physical attributes such as:
Softer skin
Layer of fat under the skin
Decrease hair growth on body
Increase hair growth on head
Redistribute fat such as waist, hips, butt and face
Removes nasty male body odor :) sorry guys!
Changes pheromones
and more!
One of the most cherished changes for me is the tranquil calm I experience now. No more 'anger'. I am more patient than I have been and seem to be more in tune to people's feelings.
That is your lesson for today!
Dawnstrider
10-03-2009, 08:44 PM
I hope you find happiness with what you are doing. You do realize tho, everyone here will expect nothing less than DD's right? lol
Raigirin
10-03-2009, 09:40 PM
Good luck on your journey and congratz on making the decision.
This made me laugh. BTW, I am not gay. :)
Whoops sorry my bad
blast3r
10-03-2009, 10:43 PM
I hope you find happiness with what you are doing. You do realize tho, everyone here will expect nothing less than DD's right? lol
haha...too funny
blast3r
10-03-2009, 10:45 PM
Best of luck to you Blaster.
I can kind of Sympathize with you, as I my oldest Son Chris, is gay. Not the same thing as what you are going through, But the ability to voice such things to friends in family is a huge step. It took him a long time to accept it himself, But he did have me and his mother being very supportive of him.
I hope you find the same thing man.
Stephen
He is lucky to have parents like you!
I pretty much have disowned my entire family accept for my twin brother and little brother. I come from a VERY dysfunctional family and figured it was best if I parted ways with them in hopes of being a bit less dysfunctional. Guess that sounds kinda funny about right now. :)
BobGnarly
10-04-2009, 01:07 AM
Wow, that's a big step. I admire your courage, I'm sure it couldn't have been an easy road.
Good luck.
Smoooth
10-04-2009, 01:31 AM
Increase hair growth on head
Is this really true? I've always thought women just had more hair cause they never cut it.
Simulacra
10-04-2009, 02:41 AM
Awesome news! We need more female wow players :)
Good luck and I hope everything turns out great for you - I love a world where we have the ability to enable people to be who they really are - simply awesome.
suicidesspyder
10-05-2009, 03:14 PM
Like i said before im happy for you and what your about to do but oweeee. Just thinking about a doc taking a knife to my downstairs area just makes me cringe in pain. You my friend have the biggest set in the world to undergo that. So kudos to you, hey at least think of this you can keep in a jar with whats the stuff never could spell it fermeldahide of something so you can scare assholes away from you when they are trying to get in your pants lol. Hey i thought it was kinda funny. Ok one other thing do we get before and after pics so we know what the old you looked liked and how the new you comes out. Well like said before good luck and owee.
Svpernova09
10-05-2009, 03:29 PM
Is this really true? I've always thought women just had more hair cause they never cut it.
Yes, Females' tend to have / create less DHT (what causes hair loss) than males, thus less DHT = More hair growth / less hair loss. It may not directly cause hair growth, but it does lessen hair loss.
I know *way* too much about hair loss.
Good luck to you, it's not an easy road.
blast3r
10-05-2009, 04:45 PM
Yes, Females' tend to have / create less DHT (what causes hair loss) than males, thus less DHT = More hair growth / less hair loss. It may not directly cause hair growth, but it does lessen hair loss.
I know *way* too much about hair loss.
Good luck to you, it's not an easy road.
I have always had a full head of hair but noticed brand new hairs growing in addition to what I already had. It is also growing very fast compared to my normal slow rate of growth. My sideburns have changed as well to a different looking type of hair. Hard to explain but I don't have real sideburns anymore.
Svpernova09
10-05-2009, 05:04 PM
I have always had a full head of hair but noticed brand new hairs growing in addition to what I already had. It is also growing very fast compared to my normal slow rate of growth. My sideburns have changed as well to a different looking type of hair. Hard to explain but I don't have real sideburns anymore.
Yep, the hair is / will probably evolve into a softer / finer / thinner hair as the treatment goes on. The therapy is very much affecting your hair growth, a lot of people don't realize how hair growth works, or how hair cycles work. You may notice a change in texture of your hair to be finer as well. It may take a year or so to fully change, but your hair growth cycle speeding up is just more hair follicles entering the growth stage as opposed to the rest stage. Pretty cool, most grown men would KILL for the ability to force their hair into nearly full growth stage. Most wouldn't go to the length of hormone therapy, they just stick to rogaine :_) I deal a lot with hair loss and we've had a lot of customers go through the process you're going through. The reason their coming to us is because their hair growth cycle has stalled, or has gone into overdrive. Just one of the many side effects.
F9thRet
10-06-2009, 09:54 AM
I've been For all intents and purposes Bald since I was 16. (What little hair I had was removed in the corp). But I don't envy you going through all that work for nice silky hair. :D :D :D
Anyways, all kidding aside, Hair growth would be the least of my worries for you. Anytime Surgery comes around for any reason, It can be dangerous. Just the anesthesia alone is risky. I am sure though down the road the doctors will get into all of that with you.
I do ve a question though, Did you have to take the Minnesota Multiphase Psych test, or anything like that? I know it's an ignorant question, but I could have sworn at one time people who wanted the change, had to do this, in order to show a medical/Psychological need for doing so.
Still your a braver man then me. For example, my first year out here at the Ranch, I got bit twice by a copprhead. My dislike of hospitals led me to stay Bed ridden for about two weeks, and then the rest of summer with a shotgun removing those dang snakes out here with a 12 guage.
Once again, wishing you the best man.
Stephen
Xtremepayne
10-07-2009, 12:47 AM
My hats off to you. Coming out to everyone is probably one of the worst fears that you can face IMO. Especially if you come from a family with old fashion values. Hopefully in time your family will develop an understandng and realize that its still you.
I wish you the best in your journey to find your true self.
lans83
10-07-2009, 01:30 AM
Can't stop you, can't change your mind, can't do anything but show support for you. I understand on a small scale of what you're goin thru and wish you all the luck in the world you end up happier. I even thought from time to time at what it would like if I went thru with a sex change. I'm disturbed, I know. But I wouldn't mind being a hot attractive chick. Already got the skinny body to pull it off. Just got a few other physical aspects that are questionable to change. And thank you for pointing out that you are NOT gay. Nothing against that, it's just that people do tend to get that impression with those that get sex changes. I'm a guy, and even if I went thru something like this, I wouldn't touch another guy with a ten foot pole. I used to joke around with friends about this topic too, told them I always felt like a horny lesbian trapped in a man's body. Not sure how far the science has come on this, and sorry if I hit a sore spot here, but is it now possible for them to give you the ability to give birth also? I personally wouldn't do this unless I got the whole package. Aside from a strict Christian family, that too would make it harder for me. I can't even openly date chicks that are Bi without making certain family members disgusted at me. I'm a very open minded person, so I do support your decision on this. And F9thRet, I'm happy you didn't turn your back on your son like most would. No way I could live with myself if I disowned or turned my back on my kids if they were.
F9thRet
10-09-2009, 08:57 PM
Thanks Lans83, But it's a no brainer to me. You always love your kids. Well unless there name is Hitler or something.
It's funny, as I am very conservative on most things. But when it comes to things like this, I always tell people It's not my business, let alone the governments.
However, when someone opens up with a problem like this, I feel it's my duty to offer them support.
Stephen
Feider
10-14-2009, 08:32 AM
Good for you. Good luck.
Thank you for sharing with the community. I have a friend/former coworker that has a very similar, actually - practically an identical situation to what you've described to us. Although I found it complex and confusing, we would talk about it in an effort to help me to better understand his plight. As a friend, I wanted to show acceptance and be supportive of his choice to pursue what he feels is right for him. Probably the most confusing part for me to understand was that he claimed that he wasn't gay. I thought for a while that maybe he was keeping that aspect of it in the closet to avoid adding anymore awkwardness or to preserve the friendship that we had prior to and after his decision to begin taking estrogen. Your openness has reassured me that my friend is being completely genuine about what he's told me. Thank you, and I'm happy to hear that you're finding yourself.
blast3r
10-14-2009, 10:31 AM
I gotta say you all are totally awesome! I have always thought a lot of this community and thought there were just some great people here. The flow of understanding and support reaffirms what I have always thought. Thanks guys!
blast3r
10-20-2009, 02:24 PM
So yesterday I went to a Penn Gender Identity Therapist/Doctor who diagnosed me with Gender Identity Disorder. She feverishly stressed it isn't a disorder but is how it is classified. She told me I am on the right track and am handling things very well.
So I am officially transgendered. This is liberating for me and makes me feel I finally have the answers I have been looking for.
Oh, and she said I am not crazy. :)
Cheers!
Wokomehee
11-05-2009, 07:02 AM
Gl to you =)...and welcome as a female boxer hehe ;)
Its great to se ppl beeing friendly and taking you seriously. Makes me sad to look at ppl getting in trouble for "not beeing 100% like everyone else". Hope you find what you are looking for!
blast3r
11-05-2009, 09:33 AM
Gl to you =)...and welcome as a female boxer hehe ;)
Its great to se ppl beeing friendly and taking you seriously. Makes me sad to look at ppl getting in trouble for "not beeing 100% like everyone else". Hope you find what you are looking for!
Thank you!
zenga
11-05-2009, 09:36 AM
And F9thRet, I'm happy you didn't turn your back on your son like most would.
Given the context that doesn't sound like the best wording you could come up with :P
But only one thing that matters: just do what you want to do and don't bother about all the others.
thinus
11-05-2009, 06:10 PM
Oh, and she said I am not crazy. :)
Damn doctors, can't believe a word they say.
;)
Asterix
11-06-2009, 10:32 AM
good luck and may your wishes come true.
and btw.. welcome to the pink side of life *g*
blast3r
11-06-2009, 11:20 AM
good luck and may your wishes come true.
and btw.. welcome to the pink side of life *g*
hehe... :-)
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